Having ceased to be distracted, live the past and wait for the perfect moment, you can radically improve the quality of your work, well -being and relationships with friends and colleagues. How to abandon bad habits that prevent life?
1. Look into the phone during meetings
Well, you could not restrain you again. You tried, really tried. And yes, yes, of course you did it very politely: “This is yours calling? Ah, it must be mine, I’m sorry … ”And they buried. Or not like that: you are just completely, very imperceptibly-in any case, it seems to you so-they threw a quick look down. Or even just fell silent and, having ceased to listen to the interlocutor, focused on the phone.
Unless you want to be known as an insensitive person, never do it like that. The phone does not give a damn when exactly you will pay him a second of attention. The phone will still not appreciate it, and this is his difference from people.
2. Distract at meetings
If you want to shine and prove yourself, close the laptop, turn off the phone and listen. And yes, this very last very important letter will also wait. And no, nothing fatal will happen in social networks in half an hour of your absence.
Focus on what is happening here and now and you will be surprised how much new and important you will take out for yourself from the most everyday meeting. Hidden subtexts of contracts, unexpected opportunities for expanding partnerships, new ideas for projects – all this is here, on this dull glider, but you will find yourself the only one who will notice it, because you are the only listener.
3. Reflect on the fate of people who have nothing to do with your life
Believe me, the inhabitants of “House-2” will be very good for your vigilant attention why Petya left Katya to Masha. Better turn him to your loved ones: spouse, children, parents, friends. Dive them your time and thoughts. They deserve much more.
4. Include all warning on social networks
Listen, you really do not need to know about each spam, which falls in your mail. And messages in social networks are also not so important. And likes on Instagram – (an extremist organization banned in Russia) is, of course, sacred, but why do you know about them every two minutes? If you are busy with something important, you should not be distracted by nonsense.
Allow yourself to completely focus on the current task. You can always check the social networks and mail when you finish the work. Do not let others draw up a schedule of your life. What you are working on right now, much more important than others can do.
5. Live the
past
Of course, the past is an important part of the experience. The mistakes that we have made are taught to be stronger and not repeat them, but it is very important not to get hung up on them. Learn to forgive: yourself and others. If you have done something wrong, do not bite yourself the rest of your life, but look at the situation as an opportunity to fix everything and find out something in the process. If someone else was mistaken, do not bring down on him the whole power of your criticism and caustic wit: this is your chance to show generosity, kindness and understanding. Do not miss it.
6. Wait for the perfect moment
The perfect moment will never come. Ideal moments do not exist at all. Instead of waiting for a mysterious combination of circumstances, take a chance. And even if you are not sure of success (and no one is sure of success when he tries something new), you can always be sure that no one will forbid you to try again. Enough to wait: you will lose much less than you are afraid, and you will get much more than dare to hope.
7. To gossip
It is not worth it. If you discussed with everyone what Ivanov is doing there, why not everyone discuss this with Ivanov himself, and not behind him? Ah, “you are not in a position to talk to him”? So maybe then you should not rant about him at all? Spend this time on productive and meaningful conversations – this is useful for business and gossip do not know.
8. Agree out of politeness
Yes, it is not easy to refuse: as friends, colleagues look at it. But, as a rule, both friends and colleagues understand if you refuse to politely and explain the reasons for the refusal. And those who do not understand and are indignant – whether their opinion is important to you? Saying no, you will survive, of course, several unpleasant minutes, but nothing more. And having subscribed to something, which painfully wants to run away to the ends of the world, you will suffer at least as much time as this damned business will take. Or maybe longer.